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When people count on someone, the person they're counting on doesn't realise it. I mean - they might notice it, but they don't understand how seriously, how desperately, the other person's depending on them.
You can only depend on one person and that is you.
It's all interdependent, everything depends on everything else to exist, nothing is separate from this
Ultimately, too much dependency on a person can kill love. Relationships based on emotional insecurity and need, rather than on love, can become self-destructive. They don't work. Too much need drives people away and smothers love. It scares people away.
We have an allergic reaction to dependency, but this is the state of the heart most necessary for a praying life. A need heart is a praying heart. Dependency is the heartbeat of prayer.
It is interdependence that creates strength, not isolation.
Life doesn't make any sense without interdependence. We need each other, and the sooner we learn that, the better for us all.
Many persons grow insensibly attached to that which gives them a great deal of trouble, as a mother often loves her sick and ever-ailing child better than her more healthy offspring.
When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.
The state of interbeing is a vulnerable state. It is the vulnerability of the naive altruist, of the trusting lover, of the unguarded sharer. To enter it, one must leave behind the seeming shelter of a control-based life, protected by walls of cynicism, judgment, and blame.
Relying on another is an expression of attachment, not love, a manifestation of insecurity and suffering, not understanding the true nature of our lives.
[Yet] dependence is scorned even in intimate relationships, as though dependence were incompatible with self-reliance rather than the only thing that makes it possible.
If I acknowledge my dependency, I do so because for me it is a means of signifying my demand: in the realm of love, futility is not a "weakness" or an "absurdity": it is a strong sign: the more futile, the more it signifies and the more it asserts itself as strength.)
In a world of tangled want, individual longings are often co-opted by more powerful interests. Satisfied desire in one sphere means loss in another.
Everyone depended upon the goodwill of others, on their skills or their patronage, their friendship or their protection. It was only that some forms of dependence were more obvious than others, not any more real.
Mutual complacency is the atmosphere of conjugal love.
Love is the missing factor; there is a lack of affection, of warmth in relationship; and because we lack that love, that tenderness, that generosity, that mercy in relationship, we escape into mass action, which produces further confusion, further misery.
Why we tie our fate so closely to one person that everything we are, everything we do, hangs upon them. It seems a cruel thing that we lose not only the one we love most, but also the opportunity to endure.
You are dependent if you allow the weaknesses of other people to ruin your emotional life!
There's one relationship in your life - in everyone's life - that has been kept a secret. You don't know when it began, and yet you depend upon it for everything. If this relationship ever ended, the world would disappear in a puff of smoke. This is your relationship to reality. A
When you're together with someone for some time, you will automatically depend on them as if they were a crutch. And then it ends.
Long-standing togetherness writes permanent changes into a brain's open book. In a relationship, one mind revises another; one heart changes its partner. (144)
Whether idyllic or defective, relationships are the fabric of life.
When we experience inner impoverishment, love for another too easily becomes hunger: for reassurance, for acclaim, for affirmation of our worth.
Love and belonging are irreducible needs of all men, women, and children. We're hardwired for connection - it's what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The absence of love, belonging, and connection always leads to suffering.
A permanent relationship is dependent on particular purpose or wealth.
Attachment is the strongest block to realization.
When the need is in the mind, you cannot satisfy the need
Making regular contributions to a reservoir of trust is the foundation of a relationship.
I have long believed this interdependence defines the new world we live in.
Attachment is the source of pain, but detachment is the source of joy.
A connection is an essential ingreidient in any healthy physical relationship.
The idea of interdependence is central to Buddhism, which holds that all things come into being through the mutual interactions of various causes and conditions.
Through my research, I found that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together. It's the magic sauce.
The doctrine of non-attachment.
Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you.
Obligation is the bitterest thraldom.
Many of us overvalue autonomy, the strength to stand alone, the capacity to act independently. Far too few of us pay attention to the virtues of dependence and interdependence, and especially to the capacity to be vulnerable.
The more you rely on what you need, the more you become that which you rely on.
There is a bond, it appears, between mother and child which endures as long as they do. It is independent of love; reason cannot weaken it; hate cannot destroy it.
There comes a time when attachments no longer clasp you; the drift begins slowly and you can comprehend that all relationships are hollow, phoney and transient.
Love is the chain whereby to lock a child to its parent.
Relationships are working either for our good and success, or they are harming us
Chains of habit are too light to be felt, until they are too heavy to be broken
Love, sought as an escape from the burden of the self, turns rapidly into a captivity.
Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'
Dependence is misery. Independence is happiness.
We are designed by God to be doubly dependent. First, directly upon God, and second, indirectly upon God through those people God brings into our lives. Our existence is to be one of interconnection, not isolation.
Human relationships are the tragic necessity of human life; that they can never be wholly satisfactory, that every ego is half the time greedily seeking them, and half the time pulling away from them.
Being able to depend on someone doesn't mean you're dependent on them.
Security and contentment can come only through interdependence of every man upon every other man.
The most powerful ties are the ones to the people who gave us birth it hardly seems to matter how many years have passed, how many betrayals there may have been, how much misery in the family: We remain connected, even against our wills.
All life is part of a complex relationship in which each is dependent upon the others, taking from, giving to and living with all the rest.
Dependence, see, is not always so ill-placed. Dependence can be a good and holy thing.
Love without trust. The difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul
Susan, who has an avoidant attachment style, ... sees need as a weakness and looks down on people who become dependent on their partner,
Many such relations are carried on under the camouflage of love, that is, under a subjective conviction of attachment, when actually the love is only the person's clinging to others to satisfy his own needs.
The chains that bind us the most closely are the ones we have broken.
Description of man: dependence, longing for independence, need.
The complexity of human relationships is never simple to follow; it is like intricate lacework, but lacework made of steel.
Love is the chain whereby to bind a child to its parents.
Desire creates havoc when it is the only thing between two people, or when it is what's missing.
Independence is an important, even vital, value and achievement. The problem is, we live in an interdependent reality, and our most important accomplishments require interdependency skills well beyond our present abilities.
What is fear of need but need itself?
Love that does not renew itself every day becomes a habit and in turn a slavery.
There are no bonds so strong as those which are formed by suffering together
Relationship Time to Aloneness. Having a companion fixes you in time and that of the present, but when the quality of aloneness settles down, past, present and future all flow together. A memory, a present event, and a forecast all equally present.
In all of its varied and protean forms, love is the tether binding our whirling lives. Without that biological anchor, all of us are flung outward, singly into the encroaching dark. (225)
Evelyn said, "What's it called when a person needs a ... person ... when you want to be touched and the ... two are like one thing and there isn't anything else at all anywhere?"
Alicia, who had read books, thought about it. "Love," she said at length. She swallowed. "It's a madness. It's bad.
Every relation challenges; every relation asks me to be something, do something, respond. Close off response and what is left? Bearing...enduring...waiting.
Relationality [is] not only [a] descriptive or historical fact of our formation, but also an ongoing normative dimension of our social and political lives, one in which we are compelled to take stock of our interdependence.
Friends and lovers lie endlessly, caught in the web of regard.
Such as the chain of causes we call Fate, such is the chain of wishes: one links on to another; the whole man is bound in the chain of wishing for ever.
Relationships do not happen in abstraction. They need a place; they need a centre, even a home.
Relationships are like an algebraic equations:what happens on one side affect the other.
Love is not emotional attachment or codependency. Love is being complete without needing to have another person by your side.
What starts as gratitude quickly becomes dependency and ends as entitlement
Life cannot be without relationship, but we have made it so agonizing and hideous by basing it on personal and possessive love. Can one love and yet not possess? You will find the true answer not in escape, ideals, beliefs but through the understanding of the causes of dependence and possessiveness.
Relationship is thus always slavery of a kind, which leaves a residue of guilt.
Human attention tends to be focused on the satisfactions relationships are hoped to bring, precisely because somehow they have not been truly satisfactory. And if they do satisfy, the price of this satisfaction has often been found to be unacceptable.
The body and mind are dependent.
When you're dependent, it's very hard not to be worried about the approval of whoever and whatever you're dependent on. For
Create a need for closure.
Trust in the process of life.
Relationships unlock certain parts of who we are supposed to be.
Some sentiment other than love united these two beings, and inspired with mutual anxiety their movements and their thoughts. Misery is, perhaps, the most powerful of all ties.
Bondage is - subjection to external influences and internal negative thoughts and attitudes.
All of us inevitably spend our lives evolving from an initial to a final stage of dependence. If we are fortunate enough to achieve power and relative independence along the way, it is a transient and passing glory.
Unconditional love is being connected to Source in spite on the conditions.
One cannot attend to oneself, take care of oneself, without a relationship to another person.
We've all had that fear, that despair of losing someone, or this fierce desire because it's not reciprocated. The less reciprocation there is, the more desire we have.
Commitment ... something which is loved and hated in equal measure.
Don't give up hope. It took many of us twenty years or more to acquire these protective behaviors we umbrella with the word codependency. It may take as much time as that to let go of them.
What is that we human beings ultimately depend on? We depend on our words. We are suspended in language. Our task is to communicate experience and ideas to others.
Relationships are the oxygen of the psyche.
Every relationship either gives energy to us or withholds energy from us, according to what we give to or withhold from it. And it's not only our behavior toward others, but our very thoughts about them, that builds and/ or destroys relationships.
Indulged habits of dependence create habits of indolence, and indolence opens the portal to petty errors, to many degrading habits, and to vice and crime with their attendant train of miseries.
Love burdens itself with the wants and woes and losses and even the wrongs of others.
Relationship is the need of those who cannot be alone. Two alone persons relate, communicate, commune, and yet they remain alone.
We all have a relentless yearning to attach and connect, to love and be loved. This relationship hunger is the fiercest longing of the human soul.